Your velvet hands: Do you know how your parent’s hands feel like? A young man went for final Interview for Management Trainee position at a Regionally Respected Private Company. He had passed the preliminary interviews and psychometric tests and was going to meet the Founder and Chief Executive. The Chief Executive reviewed his resume and was impressed. He commented ” talented and with excellent performance records”. And asked the young man these questions:
- Have you received scholarships for Schooling? The young man replied, “No”.
- Is it that your parents paid for your courses? “Yes”. He replied.
- Where does your father work or earn the living? “My father is a Blacksmith”.
The Chief Executive asked the young man to show him his hands. The young man showed a pair of hands that were soft, clean and well groomed.
- Have you ever helped your father at his job? “Never, my father and mom too; always wanted me to study and read more books. Besides, fathe can do the job better than me and all his workers.
The Chief Executive said. I have got a request. When you go home today. Please go and wash the hands of your father and then come see me tomorrow morning.
The young man felt his chance to get the job was close but seemed far off but wondered what had the washing of his father’s hands to do with Employment.
When he returned to their house. He asked his father if he would allow him to wash their hands. His father felt strange, happy, but with mixed feelings and showed his hands to his son. The young man washed his hands, carefully, little by little. It was the first time that he noticed his father’s hands were wrinkled and they had so many scars wounds. Some bruises were fresh so painful that his skin shuddered when he touched them.
This was the first time that the young man recognized what it meant for this pair of hands had to work every day to be able to pay for his colourful academic and professional credentials. The bruises on the hands were the price that his father paid for their pleasure at home, at School and in the Community and their future investments.
After cleaning his father’s hands the young man stood in silence and began to tidy up and clean up the workshop and arranged the toolbox. That night, father and son talked for a long time.
The next morning, the young man went to the office of the Chief Executive.
The Chief Executive noticed the tinkle of tears in the eyes of the young man when he asked him. “Can you tell me what you did and what you learned yesterday at your father’s house?”
The young man replied: I washed my father’s hands and when I finished I stayed and did housekeeping at his workshop. Now I know what it is to appreciate and recognize that without my parents’ hard work and business acumen. I would not be who I am today. By helping my father I now realize how difficult and hard it is to do something on my own. I have come to appreciate, deeply value the importance and the ethics in helping fellow human beings even if they are people we take for granted because of their legal responsibilities.
The Chief Executive said, “This is what I look for among new people joining our Company. I want to hire someone who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the hardship of others to do things, and a person who does not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired”.
A child that has been coddled, protected and usually given him or her what he wants, develops a mentality of “I have the right” And will always put himself or herself first, ignoring the efforts or sacrifices made by their parents. If you are this type of protective parent or guardian are you really showing love or are you destroying your children / dependent?
You can give your child a big house, nutritious food, computer classes, watch movies and soap operas on a big screen TV. But when you’re washing the floor or painting a wall or domestic chores or work, please let him or her experience that too.
After eating have them wash the dishes with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you have no money to hire someone to do this it’s because you want to love them the right way. No matter how rich you are, you want them to understand. One day your head will have grey hair and energy dissipated like the father of this young man or fortune gone. You need your child to be independent and perhaps help you and others in reciprocity.
The most important thing is that your child learns to appreciate the effort and to experience the difficulties and learn the ability to work with others to get things done!
Velvet hands and Hands washing are metaphor. Please check on your parents. Sneak into their bedroom and feel the comfort or pinch of their beds. Please provide them good appropriate clothes and food. Telephone them to say hi. You will be blessed.
Please use the table below to improve your leadership Skills. The leadership without title system. This is based on the book “The leader who had no title by Robin Sharma”. A Revolutionary Process for Growing Leaders at Every Level of Your Organization In a gentle way, you can shake the World – Mahatma Gandhi.