Accepting yourself: Learn the Rules of living as human being to succeed

You received a body at birth. When you were born you cried and everybody around you laughed. One may have said see a bundle of joy. Oh my God! It is a boy or what a beautiful girl. You lie there asleep, one little paw crumpled under your cheek and the blond curls stickily wet on your damp forehead. Live such that when you die smiling people will cry and even the undertaker will be sorry. Your eulogy will read smoothing like this “here lies a great man or a great women who knew how to live with people from all walks of life. Read on….

You may like your body or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire period this time around on earth. You better accept it. It your original copy!  The best you ever got without a substitute. You have to fall in love with it at first-sight. Are you considering to do something on it? Think of Madonna, Oprah. And have you heard the agony of Michael Jackson and many other mortals who have tried to change their skin complexion?

You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full time information school called Life. Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant or stupid. You would think that they are more suitable for somebody else and not you! These are your lessons and curriculum was tailor-made for you. Johnson Spencer in his audio book “who moved my cheese?” during one of his public speaking event posed the question to the audience: how many people need to change? No hand shot up! He posed the same question but worded differently. How many know people who need to change? Many hands were raised! Participants’ burst into laughter. You can fill in the reason.

There are no mistakes, only lessons. The “failed” experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that “works.”   A lesson is repeated until learned. It will be presented in various forms until you have learned it. Then you can go on to the next lesson. You can make the choice of learning it fast or you will be recommended to repeat or re-take the same lesson until you pass the examination. There is only one way.

Learning lessons does not end.   “There” is no better than “here.” When your “there” has become
“here,” you will simply obtain another “there” that will, again, look better than “here.”

Dale Carnegie wrote in his book “How to stop worrying and start living”. Why are we such fools-such tragic fools? “How strange it is, our little procession of life.”The child says: ‘When I am a big boy.’ But what is that? The big boy says: ‘When I grow up.’ And then, grown up, he says: ‘When I get married.’ But to be married, what is that after all? The thought changes to ‘When I’m able to retire.” And then, when retirement comes, he looks back over the landscape traversed; a cold wind seems to sweep over it; somehow he has missed it all, and it is gone. Life, we learn too late, is in the living, in the tissue of every day and hour.” Dale published his book in 1948 before issues of gender sensitivity gained preeminence.  Please my female readers replace the masculine words with feminine ones.

You should appreciate that yesterday is history tomorrow is yet to come, what you have is today and that is your present. Be grateful.

Others are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something that you love or hate in yourself.  What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.  You should avoid or sparingly move near the glass window to see the outside world. You ought to do this if you have to give credit to others.

Your answers lie within you. The answers to life’s questions lie inside you. All you need to do is Listen, Focus and Act.  Firmly believe that all things will conspire to deliver what you desire. Patience and Time must be your best companions.
Will you forget this Rule?  I hope not. Thank you,


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4 thoughts on “Accepting yourself: Learn the Rules of living as human being to succeed

  1. Vincent Nagaka - January 28, 2013 at 4:36 pm

    Wonderful inspiring message. I am blessed and I have risen up two steps ahead.Be blesed too Mwalimu Lubale.

  2. Sam Moriasi - January 29, 2013 at 10:41 am

    Mwalimu Lubale this is a nice piece of writing. Your message is good.I believe live can only be understood backwards but must be lived forward. Steve Jobs, the founder of Apple Computers said …. “connecting the dots”.

  3. Martin Katana - January 31, 2013 at 11:43 am

    Like Johann Gottfried Herder once said, “Without inspiration the best powers of the mind remain dormant, there is a fuel in us which needs to be ignited with sparks.” And you sir, you’ve just provided that spark. A very motivating message.

  4. Abdulkadir Aboud - March 14, 2013 at 10:13 am

    Mwalimu! You are such a magnificent Role Model. You have changed many of us and you will continue to change the fate of many people in the World, “Insha Allah”. May God always be with you.


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